There is probably no greater disappointment than putting time and energy into 'feel good' behaviours like exercise, healthy eating, mindful practices and recovery methods and still finding yourself feeling tired, unfulfilled and unhappy. The earlier starts, the research, the additional resources, not to mention the organisation and determination it sometimes takes, doesn't seem like it is worth it and so the easier thing to do feels like going back to original habits than to keep pursuing a happier, healthier self. But sometimes there is a missing ingredient, an essential catalyst, that unlocks the full potential in all of these behaviours and that is a thing called Self Worth.
In a world that often measures our worth by external achievements and societal expectations, it is crucial to recognise the intrinsic value we hold as individuals. Self-worth, the belief in our inherent significance and deservingness of love and respect, is the cornerstone of our emotional well-being and personal growth. It is the foundation upon which we build our lives, relationships, and overall happiness.
In my time of coaching and hosting well-being retreats I can certainly say that the work a client or guest does on their own self worth is the most profound and most powerful. It becomes the element that provides a deep desire to want to take better care of themselves, shifting them from feeling like it was another item on their to do list to something they gain genuine benefit in. It also becomes the most important ingredient in achieving long term, consistent habits because the motivation to engage in self care becomes intrinsic rather than based on looks, social relationships or external goals like fitness challenges.
In this article, we will explore the importance of self-worth in experiencing nurturing and nourishment, and how cultivating it can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced existence.
Self-Worth and Emotional Nurturing
Self-worth plays a vital role in our ability to receive emotional nurturing. When we recognise and appreciate our own value, we become more open to accepting love, care, and support from others. This self-acceptance enables us to form healthier relationships, as we are less likely to settle for mistreatment or seek validation from toxic sources. By nurturing our self-worth, we create a safe space within ourselves that encourages positive self-talk, self-compassion, and the development of a healthy self-image.
Self-Worth and Mental Nourishment
Our self-worth profoundly influences our mental well-being. When we believe in our abilities and worthiness, we are more likely to engage in activities that stimulate our minds, challenge us, and bring us joy. There is a saying. I like to share that is "we are either green and growing or ripe and rotting". By pursuing our passions, setting goals, and engaging in continuous learning, we nourish our minds and foster personal growth. Personal growth is one of leading contributors to happiness. No matter where we are on our journey, it has ben shown that if personal growth is present then there is a greater sense of happiness or contentment. Embracing our self-worth empowers us to make choices that align with our values, leading to a sense of fulfillment and purpose in our lives and ensures that our pursuits are both desired and easier to maintain.
Self-Worth and Physical Nourishment
Self-worth extends beyond our emotional and mental realms; it also impacts our physical health and well-being. When we recognise our intrinsic worth, we are more likely to prioritise self-care practices such as maintaining a balanced diet, getting regular exercise, and getting enough rest. A healthy sense of self-worth enables us to view our bodies as deserving of love and care, freeing us from unhealthy habits, such as excessive alcohol consumption or commonly regarded 'comfort eating' behaviours which are often driven by negative self-image or societal pressures. By nourishing our physical well-being, we enhance our overall vitality and quality of life.
Cultivating Self-Worth
While society often challenges our self-worth, it is important to remember that it ultimately comes from within. Cultivating self-worth is a lifelong journey that requires conscious effort and self-reflection. Here are a few strategies to help foster a healthy sense of self-worth:
a. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, embracing your imperfections and acknowledging that mistakes are opportunities for growth. A mantra I often share for this is "I'm doing best I can with the resources I have right now".
b. Challenge negative self-talk: Replace self-criticism with positive affirmations and focus on your strengths and accomplishments rather than dwelling on perceived failures. Remember, there is no failure, only feedback.
c. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being, and learn to say no to situations or relationships that do not align with your values or drain your energy.
d. Surround yourself with positive influences: Surround yourself with supportive and uplifting individuals who appreciate you for who you are and encourage your personal growth.
e. Engage in self-care: Prioritise activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and nourishment. Dedicate time to hobbies, engage in regular exercise, and ensure you have adequate rest and rejuvenation.
f. Finally, work with a coach. Some of the above strategies are blocked by deeper beliefs we hold about ourselves. Working with a coach can support to in overcoming these and unlocking your potential to growth your sense of self worth.
Embracing and nurturing our self-worth is crucial for experiencing a fulfilling and nourishing life. By recognising our intrinsic value, we open ourselves up to emotional nurturing, mental nourishment, and physical well-being. Cultivating self-worth requires ongoing commitment and self-reflection, but the rewards are immense. As we develop a healthy sense of self-worth, we empower ourselves to live authentically, pursue our passions, and form meaningful connections with others. Remember, you are worthy of love, respect, and all the nurturing and nourishment life has to offer.
